Growing up with parents as farmers, I knew there were sacrifices and things they had to do ’differently’ within their relationship to make it successful, writes Kristeena Patsche.
It wasn’t until I was in my own relationship with a farmer that I saw the quirks and abnormalities in our relationship compared to my non-ag friends.
Here are a few things I’ve found out...
Nightly chores come before any plans, so don’t ever expect to have dinner at or before 6pm.
The plus side? You never hit the dinner rush when going out to eat.
Dating a farmer is not for one who is sensitive to smell.
You learn to accept the fact their hands will smell some days, no matter how many times they wash them.
Farming comes with some really, really rough days.
If you are gutsy enough to ask how their day was, be ready for a long explanation of what all broke around the farm that day or what still needs to get done before tomorrow morning.
Get your DIY Pinterest board ready.
Their creativeness and ability to figure out how to create something, even if they have to improvise, is truly unbelievable.
Plus, they usually have unused pallets lying around the farm.
Growing up, I didn’t spend many birthdays with my parents unless I visited them in the combine.
This has only continued into my relationship and I’ve learned to accept my birthday “getaway” will only be to the field.
There is no such thing as an “off time” for farmers.
Because it is not an 8-5 job, flexibility has to be your middle name when it comes to making plans for the both of you.
If they tell you they will be done in an hour, plan for two.
You’ll never hear them say, “I can’t wait for the weekend.”
Livestock still needs to be fed and there are always improvements that can be made around the farm.
Going away for the weekend is occasional and going out on a Saturday night still means chores need to be done Sunday morning.
Even though there are so many things that you need to adjust or get used to when dating a farmer, the determination and drive they have is inspiring.
Whether it’s raining, snowing or just having a bad day, they know how to work through it and get the job done.
They know they are being counted on and don’t quit easily. At the end of the day, it’s worth it because of who they have become due to being a farmer.
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