Farm life can be an absolute rollercoaster of emotions and sometimes it’s difficult to see the positives.
Farmers wife and blogger Wanda Patsche talks us through ways to try and stay stress-free on the farm.
Let’s take a look at how to deal with a stressed-out farmer. Having farmed for 40 years, we have been down this road before.
1. Keep telling yourself the situation is out of your control. And, then tell yourself again, “it’s out of your control.” And repeat, if necessary.
Along with that message, talk about your frustrations – what is happening on your farm? And if you need to repeat yourself, go right ahead. Just keep talking. (Believe me, I have heard a lot of repeated frustrations lately, over and over.)
2. Understand tensions are high. Things that normally don’t bother you, will bother you. You may lash out. Take a deep breath. It’s going to be okay.
Keep your priorities straight. Count your blessings. Remind yourself of the big picture of life. What is really important?
3. Keep busy. This may mean to fix things on the farm that you may normally wait on. Even if it’s just little things. It’s therapeutic, trust me.
4. Make sure you are rested. Take care of yourself. Eat properly.
5. Get off the farm. Or take a walk, Or go to a movie. Or go out to eat.
Better yet, invite some other farmer friends and go out to eat. And talk about it (yes, refer to #1). Whatever you do, don’t isolate yourself.
6. Keep your humor. Laugh at yourself. Laugh at your circumstances – even if it’s inappropriate. It may seem innapropriate. Give yourself permission.
It’s okay and good for you to laugh, even if it makes absolutely no sense.
7. Do something you enjoy. And if you have to, tell yourself it’s okay to do something you enjoy. Sometimes you just need to talk to yourself.
Need some more help?
Here at Farmers Guardian, we are passionate about helping the rural community deal with everything connected to mental health, which is why we have created a dedicated hub.
It contains helplines and how to deal with mental health. CLICK HERE.
"I wish farming was not so stressful. If consumers only knew what farmers go through to put food on their table, they would have a renewed respect for farmers.
"The sacrifices we make are beyond what most people can imagine. But we love what we do. Yes, there are days we want to just throw in the towel. And logic tells us we probably should some days. But farmers persevere.
"You can’t be a farmer unless you do. But we have our limits too."